Tori Spelling and Brian Austin Green announce they were separated for 18 years

Tori Spelling and Brian Austin Green have revisited their decades-long estrangement, revealing that the dispute was due to their then-ex-partners.

In the latest episode of Green’s Elderly Podcast, co-hosted by Spelling’s brother Randy and Green’s fiancée Sharna Burgess, the former couple and Beverly Hills, 90210 The co-stars rehashed their feud after the show ended, with Spelling attributing the estrangement to losing herself in a relationship with her co-star Vincent Young.

“We haven’t spoken in a long time,” Green said on the podcast. “It was about 18 years.”

“It was almost like going through a divorce or something,” Spelling noted of the break.

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“I remember going by Vincent’s house several days after we started shooting to see you and really trying to keep the connection going,” Green recalls, noting that it “got to a point where I just never got that from you anymore.” Then, years later, at a 90210 DVD release party when Spelling was married to her ex-husband Dean McDermott and Green was dating his then-girlfriend Megan Fox: “You never said hello to me once,” Green said.

“I just kept missing you guys, and then you were gone for a night,” Green continued. “So it was like, ‘Oh my God, she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore.’ When that wasn’t reciprocated, you just gave up and thought, ‘Okay, maybe there’s something going on and she needs time.’ I don’t know what was going on in your life.”

Spelling attributed the dispute to her relationship with Young, whom she dated between 1999 and 2001. She said he was a “great guy,” but “it was a complicated relationship.”

“I lost myself in that relationship, like I did in previous relationships and then in (future) relationships,” Spelling explained. “That relationship was not a good relationship for me… not that he necessarily did anything wrong. I just wish I had been more appreciative of myself and said, ‘Okay, you show up a certain way. If the other person doesn’t show up the same way, then get out of the relationship.’ And that’s it. Vince and I have a great relationship to this day.”

Spelling added that Green’s relationship at the time with his co-star Vanessa Marcil (the duo dated between 1999 and 2003) also complicated matters. Green’s relationship with Marcil “was frustrating to see from the perspective of a friend who loves someone so much,” Spelling said – namely, seeing “how your friend is being treated and not being comfortable with it, but knowing that you can’t really say anything because the person has to go through their own experiences and their own journey.”

Spelling and Green, who are now good friends again, played the love partners Donna and David in Beverly Hills, 90210with the characters getting married in the series finale. Off-screen, they dated as teenagers. Spelling has called Green her “first love” and admitted on her own podcast that since Green, “no one has broken my heart.”