A married man discovered that his happy marriage of the last 8 years was based on a lie. His wife cheated on him before they married and now he is considering a divorce.
He’s very depressed after the discovery last year and wants to know if he would be acting like an asshole if he initiated the divorce. He shared his story with the good people on Reddit.
Husband finds out his wife cheated on him during their bachelorette party. (Image credit: Getty)
He explained that he and his wife of 35 years have been together for eight years. They have a good relationship. They lead a happy life, there are no significant money problems, they both work and have a nice house.
What has changed? Well, he found out that his wife cheated on him with a dancer at their bachelorette party many years ago.
“I found out about it because I found some questionable videos on our old hard drive. She neither denied it nor dismissed it. On the contrary, she apologized deeply and told me she would do her best to make amends,” he explained.
Understandably, it has been difficult for him to deal with this new information. They have tried to resolve the issue in marriage counseling, but it just isn’t working.
Unfortunately, this marriage is facing divorce
“I have no reason to believe she cheated on me after this incident, but my trust is so broken that I can’t rebuild it. We’ve been in marriage counseling for seven months now and I don’t think it’s working,” he admitted.
“I can’t look at the relationship the same way anymore. I know we had a great life, we planned to have a child this year and everything is stable, but I can’t change my feelings.”
“I started seriously considering divorce and didn’t know what to do. Would this have happened if I divorced my wife for this reason?”
I know everyone here will say the same thing. Of course he should get a divorce, and they’re probably right. But where’s the fun in that?
She kept it a secret from him for eight years and only admitted it when there was evidence. Shouldn’t he wait nearly another decade to find out what else she can hide from him?
What’s this guy’s sense of adventure? Doesn’t he want the adrenaline rush that comes from discovering yet another terrible secret his wife has been keeping from him?
Would he be an asshole if he divorced his wife after finding out she cheated on him at their bachelorette party? Absolutely not. But he would be an asshole if he deprived himself of the kind of excitement you can’t find anywhere else.
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